Friday, July 31, 2020

Repairing and Replacement


In our earlier articles, we talked about minimalism, decluttering, and lots and lots of related stuff. We discussed why it is important to think before buying something new and what is actually living a fruitful life with as few resources as possible.

So today, I will try to cover a very crucial thing which we generally ignore because of that league to maintain the pace with the society.

A couple of months back our onion chopper stopped working. Before writing further, let me make it very clear that onion choppers are extremely cheap and it also reduces human efforts and time very efficiently. So my Mom told me to mend that if possible or if it is a tedious task, she told me to get a new one without any delay.

Now, there is a magical instrument which is always there in our home and we call it ‘Screwdriver’. I called it a magical instrument because when we pull a screw out from a machine, it takes us to all new realm which is usually hidden from human sight.

So I quickly opened the chopper and understood its dynamics after consulting a couple of youtube videos. The spring on which the whole chopper works was broken. I tried to find that spring from the local market but I was unable to get it from anywhere. So I had no other option instead of getting a new one.

With this whole process of trying to repair something first and then replace it, I learned an amazing thing which is making my life less cluttered and a bit more interesting. I know many people who don’t give a second look to a product which isn’t working and they replace it as soon as possible. But repairing something by your own hands has a beauty. It’s a meditation when you focus on the screw coming out of the machine and you understand its dynamics. It also gives you a sense of accomplishment when you able to mend the machine.

I’m not saying that every time you have to mend the product yourself. I understand that you don’t have that much time to sit and repair each and everything broken around you. But here I would like to suggest you to always give your first priority to repair something, either by yourself or by a professional, instead of immediately replacing something.

The benefits of this process are clear – you’ll be able to save some of your hard-earned cash as well as there will be less clutter around you – how?  Let me try to explain it. There are chances that there is some stuff around you that is not serving its purpose but it is still lying in your home. For example, I had that broken onion chopper lying above the refrigerator without serving its purpose till last week. I recently converted its jar into a soup bowl kind of thing and threw away its upper lid. So repairing something can reduce the clutter around you.

Here I would like to warn you that this process doesn’t work in every scenario. Many a time, the replacement cost of the product is less than the cost of repairing. Technological advancement has made this scenario quite common. So there you can replace that product safely without giving a second thought.

I would like to conclude this article with a simple suggestion that living life slowly in this fast world has a beauty which is hard to explain. So slow down my fellow readers and my dear friends. Spend time with your kids and try to make them involved in your process of repairing things.

I see you next week then J

Love, Laughter, and Peace

Himanshu R Nagpal

Edited by:- Geetika Nagpal


Friday, July 24, 2020

Minimalism and Greed



From a couple of weeks, we are talking about De-Cluttering and managing your shelf, taking care of your social media accounts by unfollowing unrequired pages, and so on. But till now we haven't talked about why is this magical word "De-cluttering" entered our dictionary as well as in our lives? The answer is extremely simple – Greed. Yes, this five-letter word is running innumerable economies, giving billions and billions of dollars of revenue to many organizations and ruling the world.
Have you ever gone to some supermarket to buy a single product, Let's say you went to buy a jar of peanut butter? While looking for peanut butter, you came across innumerable products displayed on various shelves, classified beautifully. Now you just realized that there is an offer of on a pack of soft drinks – an attractive offer of 'Buy two, get one free'. You picked up a basket and attractively put the pack of soft drinks into it.
Now walking towards the shelf where peanut butter is displayed, a young man smiled at you and come up with an unbeatable scheme on room freshener. You suddenly realized that last time there was no such scheme on room fresheners. You quickly poured a couple of sprays down the throat of your basket.
After buying ten-odd products you finally reach in front of the shelf of Peanut Butter and then walk to the billing kiosk. You smartly take out your credit card and paid for all that stuff.
The question that arises here is, do we require these many products?
Greed has conquered our whole system. The more we accumulate the more we feel safe, happy as well as presentable. The prices ending with lots and lots of number 9 are taking its toll on us for so long. The word 'Sale' gives us unmatchable happiness.
And then when our home is filled with lots and lots of unwanted material, we read hell lot of articles regarding de-cluttering your home and watch videos regarding arranging the stuff properly in our homes.
The source of all problem is greed. It makes us do all that accumulating stuff unconsciously which avoided by you consciously. So, my dear friends, let's wrap up this article with little quick tips to conquer greed and makes us stay stick to our minimalism journey.

1)Don't run behind the conspiracy of the number 9. When the price of something ends with 9, there's a lot of psychology hidden behind it. That's the reason it's called psychological pricing.
2) The word 'Sale' gives you a sense of hurry to buy this or buy that whether required or not. We need o to understand that it is a way of converting one's dead stock into cash.
3) Make a genuine list of what's required and what's not. Don't try to skip that list no matter how much that product cost.

Om Shanti:
Love, Laughter, and Peace
Himanshu R Nagpal
Edited by:- Geetika Nagpal

Friday, July 17, 2020

Minimalism and Checking Your Ego

 


In our day to day life, this word often appears in our conversation that this person is so egoistic or this person has a lot of ego. But what we talk about in our daily conversation is just a little part of the ego. The truth is we all are surrounded by ego. No matter how much we try to avoid this thing called ego, it appears in various forms and disturbs our psyche and upset our journey not only towards minimalism but of overall well being. Some learned mystics and gurus define Ego as something which appears when you differentiate yourself with the person standing next to you.  In other words, when you distinguish people between “you and I” ego appears.

My dear friends, you might be thinking that why I’m writing about Ego in this series of blog posts related to minimalism and simple living. The thing is, if we try to look into this a bit deeper, we’ll be able to understand that Minimalism and ego has an Inverse relationship.

Let’s try to find out what actually ego is and how it is connected or has an inverse relationship with minimalism.

I might be wrong, but I would like to define ego as – Ego is the difference between who you are and what you actually are and/or what people think you are.

Knowing your true self is a never-ending process for people like us, but the more we get closer to our real selves, we can recognize the difference between who we are and what society calls us and/or what we think we are.

What society calls us can be either serving your ego if people or you are considering your image as better than your true self or, it can deteriorate your self-confidence if you or people consider your image not as good as your true identity. If I can take a little liberty to sound a bit philosophical, I would like to say that Image is actually an illusion and that illusion can make you egoistic and can take you far away from your true self.

Now let us try to understand how this all is connected to Minimalism.

See this society has a simple philosophy of categorizing people under those evergreen heads called status. A person who is having an Audi has a better status according to the person who is driving a Honda city. And a person having a Honda city has a better status than the person driving a hatchback car.

I’m not saying that everyone has this philosophy, but the majority of people believe that so. These statuses are nothing but sketching a person’s illusionary image which is far away from one’s true image. And that is what my friends breed Ego.

If you have read my articles in this series, and believe that living a minimalist life is worthy enough I would suggest not to rise above this league of status and illusions, but to stay away from it. As far and as fast you can run away from this league, the better is for you as well as for the people around you.

So my dear ones, Let’s try to live with this philosophy in mind.

And with this, I would like to conclude this article.

See you next week then.

Om Shanti:

Love, Laughter, and Peace

Himanshu R Nagpal

Edited by:- Geetika Nagpal


Friday, July 10, 2020

Minimalism and the Art of Time Management

 

Since my childhood, I have heard from so many sources that Time Management is very crucial for one, no matter who he or she is. And I cannot deny the fact that I have had a very hard time managing my time. You must have also heard about maintaining a time table or write a ‘To-Do List’ in your journal to save time, which increases one’s efficiency and effectiveness of the task. No points for guessing, that I tried all that stuff and failed not once but many times.

So in this little article, I’ll try to cover that what the heck is minimalism and how it is connected with this evergreen concept of time management.

First things first, let’s try to understand what is Minimalism? Don’t worry, I will not give you a definition copied from the websites of the west blabbering about Minimalism a concept originated from the west. I will just write what I feel about this.

Minimalism is something that physically makes you survive on the least resources possible and spiritually it makes your existence lighter.

By the definition, when I say that it makes you survive fewer resources, I mean to say that there are no extra clothes in your closet which you don’t wear anymore or which doesn’t fit you anymore. There are no extra pens and pencils in your pen holder. There are no unused files  (Audio, Video, or images) on your mobile phone. There are no unread and unattended Emails in your Inbox. There are no idiotic pages followed on your Facebook profile.

One of the most time-consuming tasks of every one of us is to stand in front of our closet every morning and think about what I should wear to the office. The reason is very simple because our closet is un-managed and filled with lots and lots of clothes, which we don’t wear anymore, we have actually forgotten what’s actually there in my closet. Our own habit of accumulating things and attachment to them is making our daily chores slow and time-consuming, also it is also digging a hole in our respective pockets.

Have we ever thought that why are we spending a large chunk of our monthly income on clothes and other accessories? The answer is very simple. We believe that we are judged by the clothes and watches we wear at a party instead of the way we express ourselves in a party. As we have discussed in our earlier posts, our clothes, gadgets, and accessories are not our identity.

So there are certain not-so-easy but amazing ways to save time by adopting a minimalist way of living:-

  1. Every Sunday try to invest at least 15 minutes in managing your closet.
  2. Make a list of clothes which you don't need anymore and then - Donate them.  (Or you can also sell them. There are certain websites that help you in finding buyers for your clothes. Though I haven't tried them yet.)
  3. Understand the difference between needs and wants. Needs are of utmost importance for one's well being but unnecessary wants can fill your life with hell lot of physical and mental clutter. 
  4. Don't think about what other people will say if you repeat clothes often. It is you who have to pay for your clothes, not them.

    So my dear minimalist, these steps are time-consuming at first but trust me, it will save a lot of your time in the long run.

    So, I'll see you next week then.

    Om Shanti:
    Love, Laughter, and Peace
    Himanshu R Nagpal
    Edited By:- Geetika Nagpal

 

Sunday, July 5, 2020

Balidaan


Ganesh was sitting on an old wooden chair in the small backyard of the government quarter allotted to his father. His face was looking so pale. It was clearly visible that he was frightened of something. Anxiously, he was looking at a shining pair of scissors that were brutally cutting his hair. The irritating sound of flip-flops was making him more frightened. But somewhere in his eyes, there is a sense of safety which was obvious because this month his loving Father was cutting his hair as he was at home on his holidays.

After cutting his hair, he started massaging Ganesh's head and he started giggling.

"Baba, can you please sing that song for me, which you were singing last time?" Ganesh said in his trembling and breaking voice because of the vibrating sensation he was receiving from his Dad's Strong Hands. Ecstasizing it was.

His father laughed and started tickling his belly. Then he started singing in a nasal voice.

"sar jo tera chakraye, ya dil dooba jaaye, aaja pyare paas hamare, kaahe ghabraye, kaahe ghabraye."

Ganesh was now rolling on the floor because of the tickle and his Father's funny voice. He wasn't able to catch his breath but couldn't control his laugh.

His Father continued " Sun Sun Sun, Arrey baba sun, Is chumpy main hai badhe badhe goon."

They both were having a great time together. Every time his father used to come home, Ganesh couldn't control his happiness. He always felt a sense of protection around him, a sense of security that an eight years old kid couldn't express in words.

But his happiness was about to take a long break as his Dad had to leave for Manipur the very next day. He has to report the next day as his holidays were getting over. He had to join his battalion the very next day. His father was the chosen one exclusively by Mother India- he was Lieutenant General in the Indian Army.

 

That night while walking in the Quarter's maidan, Ganesh's father could sense his son's unsaid feelings. he knows how to deal with it because of three reasons. first, these situations are recurring and the number of holidays he used to get can be counted on fingers. Second, he knew his son better than anyone else in this world. Third and the most important, he was the son of a soldier.

he was about to break the silence by telling him fictional or some self-created stories of stars or moon but Ganesh asked a question which took Ganesh's father into a dark cave of memories.

"Baba, How did Dada Ji die?" he asked with his glittery eyes, walking next to his Dad.

His father wasn't expecting this kind of question at this time. He got emotional but decided to answer it as lightly as he can. Some memories make you weak, some make you strong. But for a soldier, he finds his strength in those memories who generally makes people weak. He decided to answer his Son's question as lightly as he can, but some emotions are beyond your control. They both sat on a bench under a street light, buzzing with mosquitos. he took a deep breath before replying.

"Your Dada Ji was a great man Gannu. He was not only my hero but a hero of the nation. In a war against Pakistan in 1965, while attacking the enemies he sacrificed his life for the nation. While dragging an injured soldier, an enemy threw a grenade towards them. He pushed the other soldier as forcefully as he could, but not even once thought about his own life." he paused for a second and continued "I remember touching his feet early in the morning when he went to join his duty back. I was even younger than you. And when he came back, he was in a little Goblet. A soldier gave the ashes to My Mother and saluted smartly before  leaving." A cold tear dropped slowly through his left eye.

Ganesh was listening to each and every word very carefully. Instead of getting emotional, he shot another question.

"But Baba how do you know it was Dada Ji? I mean was there any proof of that? What if he is still alive somewhere in the nation, somewhere very far from us"

He smiled at his Son's question and decided to take him back to the quarter.

That night, Ganesh cried silently, squeezing his head against the pillow. He was making sure that no one sees him crying. His pillow was wet and his heart was heavy. He didn't want his father to go away from him. He couldn't understand the meaning of National Duty, what he could understand that that duty is taking his Father away from him.

Next Morning he saw his Dad getting ready for the duty. He wore his uniform, applied oil to his hair, and was tying his shoelaces. Ganesh was watching everything carefully. He wanted to bid goodbye to his Father, but he couldn't. It was just the beginning of his summer holidays and he will be badly missing his Dad.

Soon, the lights were off again and his Father was gone. there were still some hours left in the sunrise. He started crying again and this time his voice was a bit loud. Her mother came to him and started wiping his tears. She was a strong lady. He hugged his mother tightly and asked

"Maa, when will Baba return from Manipur?"

She replied still holding him in her bosom " Soon Gannu, Very soon. And he didn't go to Manipur son, He went to Kashmir. Shekhawat uncle received a call last night that they have to reach Kashmir directly as there is some disturbance in the Kargil area."

After sobbing for some time, He didn't realize that when he slept. He saw a very strange dream. He saw his Grandfather, wearing the uniform, just like the picture hanging in the drawing-room, and sitting next to him on the same bench on which his Father and he were sitting. He said to Ganesh that in that Goblet there were ashes of some other Soldier. He is still alive and living somewhere in Rajasthan.

Ganesh woke up with a thud but didn't share anything with anyone.

After a couple of days, they received a call that a war has been declared between India and Pakistan and is at its full pace. Ganesh and His Mother stuck to the Doordarshan for all the updates and news about what was happening in Kargil. They tried hard to contact Ganesh's Dad but it was of no use. Days became Weeks and week became Months but there was no news of Ganesh's father. Fortunately, India tasted victory in that war but still, there was no news of Ganesh's Father. His mother used to see newspapers where they used to declare the list of soldiers who were declared Martyrs. Every name she reads in the list raises her heartbeat, thinking about the family of those soldiers. But there was no name of Lieutenant General Umakant Mishra. That gave her a partial relief, but was still worried and was eagerly waiting for his husband to come back.

One day, he came back, but not alone.

Another soldier came with him, pushing his wheelchair slowly. Ganesh's father lost both his legs in the battle. But he kept fighting not thinking about his legs much, till they tasted victory. Though he lost both his legs, he returned with his head high.

He saluted to Ganesh with a broad smile and Ganesh saluted back, crying because he was not expecting his Father in that condition. He always portrayed him as a tall, handsome, and ever-smiling man. He couldn't see his Father's lower Body. Though it was covered with a blanket, there was an emptiness he felt whenever he looked there. He couldn't estimate the loss his family has suffered, but he was immensely proud of his Dad - Lieutenant General Umakant Mishra.

 

28th March 2012

Ganesh softly opened the main gate of his flat, so that no one could feel his presence. He wanted to surprise his parents. His Mother was making food in the kitchen and Father was reading the newspaper in the little backyard, where he used to have hair-cuts. He firstly bowed to his Grand Father's Photograph in the drawing-room and then directly went to Backyard to surprise his Father. His Mom saw him and was numb for a moment. She accidentally touched the hot utensil placed on the gas stove and screamed a bit in pain. Ganesh's Father turned his wheelchair around to see what had happened to his wife. And what he saw was a smart soldier of around 6 Feet tall standing in front of him in uniform.

"Lieutenant Ganesh Umakant Mishra Reporting Sir." He saluted smartly after placing some papers on his Father's Lap.

His Father was literally into tears but was smiling.

"So where are you posted, Officer?" he wiped his tears looking directly into his Son's eyes, who was not his son now. He was Son of Mother India- our Holy Bharat Maa.

"Where My Dada Ji is" he whispered.

"I beg your Pardon, Officer"

"In Rajasthan, Sir"

Jai Hind

HRN

This little story is dedicated to all the brave souls serving in Armed forces and protecting our nation from various threats.

Friday, July 3, 2020

Cleaning the mess out of your life.


A few days back, I had more than 2500 friends on my Facebook account. Not only that, but I was also getting innumerable notifications related to pages which I had liked or followed somewhat eight to ten years back. You might be thinking that I’m highly social who keeps himself updated about everyone’s life.
Honestly speaking, I don’t even know what my neighbor does for his living or how many members are there in his family. I don’t even know what most of the people who used to be my schoolmates, class fellows, and colleagues doing presently or where are they.
If I talk about my Email Inbox, I had over three thousand unread emails, which were useless as most of them containing free subscriptions which I don’t read anymore or promotional offers from various companies and people.
The good news is, now I have less than eight hundred Facebook friends, a few hundred-page followings, and almost no unread emails in my inbox.
But why I did that? Let me try to explain this to you.
My dear friend, our mind creates an illusion that quantity gives security. We start feeling that sharing our personal life with millions of people will make us famous or the hot topic of discussion among your Facebook friends or Instagram followers. Not only that, but we also feel that more friend request means more people like you. Is that really true? I doubt.
If I can be honest enough, it is the most common illusion the human mind strongly believes in.
Before this social media era, friendship used to be a special relationship with someone with whom you can and sit and talk about your thoughts, your problems, what’s really going on in their life, and so on. That definition of friendship hardly fits with the people residing in our friend list. They just like your picture or comment under that and expect the same from you. They are always ready for heated political debates or their comments upon various hot topics and so on.
The reason I took that step is, I started losing my sanity. I was totally done with those people and pages whose ideologies are completely different from mine. I was done with the friends who weren’t there when I badly needed someone and the ones who never approached me in the time of their emotional or physical turmoil. I wished them good luck and released them from my Facebook account. I unfollowed the pages and groups who don’t serve their purpose anymore.
It took me more than a week to delete most of the emails and unsubscribing myself from various email lists.
How do I feel?
Ah, I feel very light.
I’m not saying that you should do what I have done. You are smart enough to judge that. My motive for writing this is just to guide you to stay conscious of the data which you are absorbing unconsciously because most of it is disturbing your psyche and wasting your time.
So consider this another step of de-cluttering or minimalism. Though you'll see no physical changes in your surroundings, But mentally it will make things great.
See you next week.
Om Shanti:
Love, Laughter, and peace
Himanshu R Nagpal
Edited by:- Geetika Nagpal

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